Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a painful process. There is no quick fix but the pain will eventually subside. After you have said your goodbyes, and close family and friends have all but gone home, it is then that you find yourself truly alone. Time will heal the wounds and the sadness but for the meantime it may seem hopeless with endless sorrow. Keep in mind that more than anything your loved one wants you to feel good about yourself and move on. Your grieving will help you to push forward with your life.
I have lost several very close people in the course of my life. As a teenager I lost my father and I must admit that 35 years later I still feel sadness and even some regret for the words I did not say to him before he left. Don't allow yourself regret. It is not necessary. I know in my heart that there was nothing I failed to say that he did not already know.
I felt the gamut of emotions through the year that followed. Feelings of anger, sadness, regret, guilt and finally acceptance of my father's death all passed through me. I did accept and finally realize that his death was not my fault. Next was for me to move on and live a fulfilling life which is what he truly wanted. Time is your biggest ally. Give yourself time to grieve and time to accept.
Years later, as an adult, I lost my then partner after only a 1 year relationship. The loss was sudden and unexpected. I suffered insurmountable depression and had difficulty pulling myself out of that deep hole I had tumbled into.
Once again, time was my ally. If you can garner patience from your friends, family and employer, allowing you the time you need to work through your grief, you will more than survive. You will thrive.
We are here to share the company of those we love and when they move on we need to cherish their memory and celebrate their lives. Life does not end when we leave the physical realm. We are merely moving on to the next endeavor.
From a contributor to #Funeral Fund